The birth of your first baby brings so many changes to your life. One of the major being your new role as a mum. Women adapt into this new role in many ways but it is not always easy.

Your Views and Comments

I had very bad Post Natal Depression with all 3 of my girls. I would like to sympathise with anyone who has been unlucky to have this.On the plus side you can get better as i did and enjoy your children again.Let go of any guilt as it holds you back from enjoying life.I promise as your children get older you see what you have achieved and how beautiful your children are! best of luck to you and your family.

Rebecca

I am enjoying being a mummy again (my other son is 14!!) despite the fact that at my 20 week scan they found that my son had bilateral talipes (both his feet turn inwards). I was terrified that I wouldn't love him and would reject him, and spent the next 20 weeks worrying about this. But, as soon as he was born, nothing mattered, I had this instant love for him and just wanted to do everything I could to help make him better. Every consultant and doctor that we have seen have been fantastic and helped us with all our questions and fears, and even now at 3 weeks old, he has both his legs in casts (for 3 months), we know that there is light at the end of the tunnel and everything will be fine by the time he needs to walk. It is a very scary thing to find out at your scan, but I would urge other mums not to worry about it and just enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, it will all be good in the end.

Elizabeth E Quogan

I had my first daughter naturally and loved bonding with my baby right away. We had lots of skin contact and cuddles. But with my second daughter it was so complicated I had to much fluid, she was too big and had her hands over her head so was in labour for 24 hours and then ended up having to have an emergency section. I felt like I had failed and lost all control. Everything went fine and we had a lovely 8lb 11oz baby girl. But it did take me a long time to get over the fact that I had to have a section.

Tracy

I had a failed induction with Kai and ended up having a c-sec although it was a traumatic time I can't imagine life without him now. I do find it hard work and as he is my 1st child I find myself worrying over little things.

Claire

Does anyone ever find that the job of being a new mum is a bit of a thankless task? I am suffering from PND and have found it hard to bond with my 5 month old son. It sounds stupid but he seems to reserve all his smiles for other people and not me and seems to whine an awful lot at me. I barely seem to be able to muster a smile from him, never mid a full on belly laugh. I sometimes think that he just associates me with food and lifting him up out of his cot, car seat etc. The bottom line is that I just don't think that he likes me and this worries me a lot.

In the first year of my son's life I found being a mum very suffocating. It was as through the old me had disappeared. I would sometimes just open the front door to get some air. Over time I have adapted to include space for being a mum, wife and me but it took a long time.